Thursday, September 23, 2010
The Infamous "Talk"
After coming home from school, Lily puts her backpack down in a daze. All she could think about was how that cute guy, Chris, from her chemistry class asked her out on a date. She finally asked her mother if it was okay for her to go on a date with Chris tomorrow night. Lily's mother sat her down at the dinner table and began to have a heart-to-heart. Lily's mother started to have the "talk." She explained to Lily the importance of abstinence and of contraception. She encouraged her daughter to take contraceptive measures if she intended to have a sexual relationship with Chris. Lily's mother spoke of all the sexually-transmitted diseases there are in the world and how cautious she should be. She also explained how Chris should not force Lily into doing anything she did not want to do. After Lily's mother was done having the "talk," Lily began to ask questions of her own. She questioned her mother about the right way to explain to Chris in not participating in any sexual actions. Lily's mother explained that Lily should be firm and not waver. She also explained that at the time, Lily's body might be yearning for Chris' touch, but keep in mind that she should not do anything if she does not feel comfortable. Lily also asked her mother what type of contraceptive should be used when the time comes. Her mother replied saying that she could do her own personal research online using websites such as Planned Parenthood (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teen-talk/) or the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy (http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/) or Sex Etc.(http://www.sexetc.org/). She also explained how she will be there whenever Lily needed anything or had any more questions as the two hugged. Lily thanked her mother for listening to her and for explaining things to her even if it was awkward for her.
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The scenario you presented appears to have an open-minded parent who is willing to discuss abstinence and contraception with her daughter. Though most parent may want their children to choose abstinence, wiser parents may want to express the importance of the use of contraception. That special conversation may save our children's lives. Giving children the correct and accurate information, in my opinion, is the best course of action for parents. In the end, we want our children to grow into responsible, healthy adults. I enjoyed your scenario.
ReplyDeleteI really like the scenario that you used. I think that the best way to talk to kids about this is by pushing for abstinence but also realizing that they should be prepared for both situations. It wouldn't be good for them to get in a situation and not know how to handle it. I like that the parent in your scenario is understanding and seemed to remain calm, because a lot of kids push away from their parents if they feel any anger. The mother made it an easy conversation and I think that the daughter would feel comfortable talking to her mom if she had any more questions.
ReplyDeleteMeghan McGehee